Posts Tagged ‘relationship advice’
After all the hype in the media in recent weeks as to whether or not they’re sticking it out, US Weekly has confirmed today that Heidi Montag, a reality tv personality, has officially filed for a legal separation from ‘The Hills’ star, Spencer Pratt. It must be included that TMZ says they have a PDF of the paperwork, and Us Weekly, suggests that this may be another publicity stunt for this duo to stay in the news.
If you ever find yourself in the middle of a tumultuous relationship that you just can’t make a final decision on, there are ways to make up your mind:
Set some boundaries: Make it clear that you’re done with constant back and forth emotions, and that limits must be set on any negative connotations meant to instigate a battle. This is a simple, yet effective way to figure out if your mate is truly willing to take your pairing seriously.
Be strong : You want to be treated with respect, and love but maybe these things aren’t happening in your relationship. Explain to your partner that you wish to remain a couple, but change is necessary. If they aren’t able to fulfill your needs, that could be a telling sign.
Follow through: Many times, people who are adamant about leaving a relationship agree to stay a little while longer when their partner promises to make changes. This decision is fine as long as you remain clear about your needs and don’t fall back into the same pattern again.
Whatever your intentions, no relationship is foolproof. Both people must be willing to maintain the new rules for a successful relationship. There is also a possibility that one or both of you suffer from a condition far more serious called, commitment phobia.
If you would like to learn more about this and how it can affect even the most credible relationships, read this article: Love Lessons for Commitment Phobes (or those who love them)
Despite rumors (or were they?) circling the media last August that Chelsea Clinton wed long time boyfriend, Marc Mezvinsky at Martha’s Vineyard last summer, the Clinton camp has denied that the union ever took place. However, rumor has it again that the couple will REALLY wed this summer, although the duo are keeping very quiet about the details.
“Mi Media Naranja” which means: ‘One’s sweetheart, one’s beautifully perfect other half’ when used to describe a loved one in Spanish, is the title for Amy Spencer’s new book, Meeting your Half Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match.
According to the author, one can take the dating concept and transform it into a unique and positive experience by simply helping the average single ‘sow their orange seed’ into “fruit-ion” -or their ideal relationship. From Spencer’s own experiences in life, this book is intended to provide optimism and hope within the souls of the unattached, thus offering an opportunity to gain not only a partner, but a soul mate.
The advice in Spencer’s book so closely parallels my own dating path that I had to write a post about it! For years, I had been focusing on the negative aspects of dating (and men), always finding a reason why I didn’t like a guy or found something wrong with him. What I didn’t realize is that this negative attitude was transparent to others. Once I decided to change my way of thinking, and adopt a more positive attitude–Voila–dating became so much fun. Having an optimistic outlook is the key message that Spencer delivers in her book. The only thing I’d like to add is “watch out” because within months, a man who is now my husband swarmed in and swept me away. This book is a great guide for singles.
On May 16, 2010, Ashley Olsen, a major player in the ’80s sitcom, Full House, and boyfriend, Justin Bartha, from ‘The Hangover,’ were among the passengers of a United flight, from New York to LA, forced to make an emergency landing at Dulles International Airport in Washington D.C. after a cockpit fire broke out. Fortunately, for everyone, there were no injuries reported, and the flames were extinguished.
Have you ever hopped into bed only to find, ugh, crumbs? More couples than you may think are very particular about their under the sheets rules. For some, it’s an instant dealbreaker.
My article, Bad Bedroom Habits that will Kill a Relationship, focuses on specific turn-offs that could make your lover go from lustful to lack of interest in no time. Check out the article and see if you suffer from any of these no-no’s. The article was recently featured on Divine Caroline.
Today is my “2nd” Mother’s Day and for millions of moms out there, it’s a day of planned activities and appreciation by husbands and children everywhere. However, in this modern era of divorced, widowed, estranged, and simply single moms increasing exponentially since the 1950′s (From 1 in 20 to nearly 1 in 3, according to recent records), many mothers spend this day alone.
But, what if the unattached mom finds a new beau and is ready to include them on their special day? Is this ‘allowed?’ Hmmm. The answer is not as easy as the question. There are many factors that go into this. If you’re a mom and you want to start dating or include your new man this holiday, check out my article: A New Man for Mother’s Day? Give Yourself the Gift of Love Minus the Guilt.
I would like to thank Single Edition for featuring it this weekend.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Alright, you may or may not be willing to admit this, but you loved the first Sex and the City movie, and are now eagerly anticipating the sequel which is set to be released on May 27, 2010. To view an enticingly teasing trailer: http://www.sexandthecitymovie.com/. It follows your four favorite NYC Singles – Carrie, Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte make a getaway to Abu Dhabi where camels, cocktails and an old crushes collide.
Does your single life emulate any of the characters in the series/movie? Each of the characters has their own style and flair, but they share one thing in common. They’re single and lonely. It’s tempting to try to fit yourself in their shoes, if you can afford them. Remember that Hollywood is paid to make it look good. If you are part of a growing population that would rather take dating advice from movies, consider, that in doing so, you are preventing yourself from meeting your soul-mate because you chose to glam up and head to the opening of a hot new nightclub instead of your best friend’s barbecue. If you’re not sure how to get started on your real life romance, here are some suggestions:
- Travel to your Hometown: Instead of flying to jet set locations in hopes of meeting a shallow fling, head home to where the heart is. Low key vacations gives you a chance to meet new people in your native city and are more likely to spark long term, meaningful romance
- Nerds are a girl’s best friend: Not all men are created equal. Braniacs offer more stability in a relationship versus multiple one night stands w hot guys, so set your bar higher and search for the intellectuals in your crowd.
- Take a Class: Believe it or not, simply taking a class on your latest passion offers you a wider dating selection than even online dating. Here, you put yourself into a scene where you are surrounded by people that share your interest. Striking up a conversation could lead to coffee, lunch, or a full blown relationship. For more information on connecting in class, read my article, How to Connect in Continuing Education.
Life can often be troubling and full of unimaginable challenges, but you can work through them, one step at a time. Consider your options within your own life before taking tips from the movies alone for they are usually filled with embellishing traits to make it a better movie.
If you’re in need of tips on dating, relationships, or love in general, please check out the articles on my website: loribizz.com
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Reese Witherspoon, known for movies such as: Walk the Line and Legally Blonde (1 and 2) enjoys a weekend getaway in Ojai, CA, with her new boyfriend Jim Toth by her side. He’s a young, hot, Hollywood agent working for ‘Creative Artists Agency’ (which also happens to be the same agency that represents Witherspoon). They were spotted on breakfast and lunch dates holding hands and looking very happy together. It seems that after months of going ga-ga for Jake Gyllenhaal, Witherspoon is trying her luck with a younger man who’s ’not’ in the spotlight. She was previously married to fellow actor, Ryan Philippe, until November 2006, and they have two children together.
If you find yourself craving variety after ending a long-term relationship of any kind and want to try something new, like Witherspoon, there are a few things you should keep in mind:
- Gossip – No matter how you end things with your previous partner, there’s bound to be some gossip from friends, family, and/or colleagues about your former relationship. In order to move forward, you’ll need to keep the wagging tongues silent – including yours. Bad mouthing your ex opens you up to falling victim to insecurity and may prevent new connections from forming, or even ruin the one you’ve just begun.
- Timing – One thing you may hear over and over, is that people are getting back into the dating game only days after breaking up with their old partner. When you end a relationship, no matter what the reason, it’s always best to take extra time to reacquaint yourself with the single ‘you.’ Give yourself at least two months to start thinking of adding a new love interest into your mix.
- Privacy – Though you may have been accustomed to revealing personal details in your last relationship, don’t over share on the first few dates. There is always a need or desire to simply ‘be’ with each other, but remember to maintain other aspects of your life when starting a new romance. You can reveal yourself slowly as you grow more comfortable with each other.
Forming a new love alliance can be tough, but if you shake off your old dating habits and routines, the next relationship could be the one.
For more information on love and dating after any serious relationship, my article First Encounters, Second Time Around Fears, maybe just what you’re looking for to find your next love interest.
Jennifer may have split with co star, Jamie Kennedy, but this ‘unlucky in love’ star of Ghost Whisperer, who proclaims herself a ‘Hopeless Romantic,’ is sharing her real life love story in her new book, ‘The Day I Shot Cupid: Hello, My name is Jennifer Love Hewitt and I’m a Love-aholic,’ which can be purchased at Amazon. Hewitt shares what she’s learned about being honest with yourself and she uses a witty approach to discuss 20 things you should do after a break up. Here are just a few:
- Know that you won’t die (you have to stick around so he can see what a mistake he made.
- Take it one day at a time (we all have to take it one day at a time, that’s how it works.)
- Don’t go to the old “we” spots.
- Do something extreme (that you normally wouldn’t do).
If you aren’t content living your life as a party of one, then consider reading Hewitt’s book, to help you change your status back to ‘in a relationship.’ For any real chance at success, take your time and work on yourself before proclaiming to the world that ‘You’re Ready for Love.’ Remember that it takes time to heal. For more about Jennifer Love Hewitt, login to her website at: www.jenniferlovehewittonline.com .
Christina Applegate of, “Samantha Who?” and “Married with Children” has accepted the offer of marriage from Martyn Lenoble, whom she has been friends with for more than 13 years and seriously dating for the past two. No surprise here, according to Applegate, her “Angel” has been her rock even before her breast cancer diagnosis in July 2008.
Being diagnosed with Breast Cancer can be devastating, but having someone by your side during this time is truly a gift. If you’re in a relationship and the person you’re dating is going through this experience, following are a few ways that you can help support them:
- Being Present - Loving someone with cancer, or a condition of any kind, means doing whatever you can to help him or her through it. This includes driving them to their doctors appointments and staying by their side if they need chemotherapy or radiation treatments. Offering to be with your partner when the doctor gives them their recent test results or explains the next stage of their treatment can give them comfort and help them to not feel so alone.
- Staying Positive - It’s easy to think negatively during a time like this. But, it’s important to stay focused on the good things and remain strong. Remember your partner is counting on you to be positive now more than ever; they’re probably enduring enough negative thoughts of their own. Staying confident about a new treatment that seems to be helping or a diagnosis that could have been worse can be turned into a positive outcome.
- Finding Patience – The love of your life is going through what could possibly be one of the worst experiences they’ve ever had to face. Be patient, and understanding. Keep reminding them that you are there for them if they want to rant about the latest news, chemotherapy treatment or even if they want to ignore their condition for a while and pretend that it isn’t true.
Adding cancer to any relationship is tough, but with a little knowledge, understanding, and perseverance, you both have a chance to move on from this experience with a deeper sense of self and of each other. Unfortunately, the outcome is not always a good one. You need to be prepared for this, even if your lover isn’t ready to deal with it just yet. The biggest favor you can do for your partner is just being there for them, like Martyn was for Christine. Let them know that they aren’t alone.