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Hot male celebs having extra marital affairs seems to be Hollywood’s newest trend.  You can find the stories just about everywhere: Tiger Woods sleeping with multiple women, Jesse James’ affair with a controversial ‘model’, Tiki Barber, who has reportedly left his 8 month pregnant wife for an intern, and even John Edwards, who admits to not only cheating on his cancer stricken wife, but also fathering a child with a willing participant.  But, cheating doesn’t discriminate; both men and women can be victims.

If you’ve ever considered an affair, it’s best if you first weigh the downsides to the initial thrill and excitement  you may be feeling.  This behavior may signify an underlying insecurity that you haven’t dealt with yet like depression, fear of invalidation or commitment issues.  Below are some possible causes and solutions for cheating:

• Marriage- You married someone who you weren’t 100% in love with, thinking that eventually your feelings would blossom and grow.  Before you find your sexual urges wandering outside the marriage to quench your lusting thirst for someone else, look to your spouse for excitement and try to determine the source of your emotional issues first.
• Communication- Once you realize the reasons your thoughts or actions led you to look toward that sexy intern at the office or the handsome, hot bodied landscaper, have a conversation with your husband or wife.  Sometimes just talking about your needs in the relationship can quickly fix the things that are going wrong.
• Counseling- Some unions require additional support to work through the problems.  Your insurance company may provide coverage to assist with the cost, but if not, there are community organizations and centers, or perhaps churches and synagogues, that have programs for couples.  Getting help could strengthen your bond and save your marriage.
• Separation- If you’ve explored all of your options and still can’t find common ground, it could be that the marriage really wasn’t meant to be.  Before choosing to cheat, discuss the option of separation.  Time apart will give you the opportunity to examine your inner self and discover why you got married to your spouse in the first place.  If separating doesn’t work, it’s better to part ways than to risk hurting your spouse with a fling.

No matter what path you choose, extra marital affairs can only lead to pain and heartache. You married for a reason, so before stepping out, take a moment to step back in and look at your lives from a different perspective.  Be open with your spouse about your feelings and if you still see no future, end the relationship before moving on.

Please share your relationship story.  Sometimes just writing it down can lead to a positive solution.