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Jim & Jenny Call it ‘Quits’
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After 10 years together, on April 6, 2010, Jim Carrey and Jenny McCarthy have called it quits announcing their decision via Twitter. Although it’s a celebrity spotlighted break-up, one thing that separates it from the likes of memorably messy endings like Kate and Jon Gosselin, is that this couple has ended their relationship amicably.
While we never expected these two to part ways, Hollywood splits are common. Amazingly enough, we have just as many horror stories within our own friend base regarding the end of a relationship that we could probably make a movie from them. The difference between Hollywood and our home town dissolutions is simple. They have their lives plastered everywhere and we do not, but we share a common thread of nightmarish fighting when we choose to stop being the love of someone’s life. So, based on various types of break ups in Tinsel Town and those close to home, here are some ways to prevent your relationship from falling apart and adding you to the growing statistics:
- Strengthen the Bond- It’s possible that Jim and Jenny, both holding jobs that requiring lots of travel, were not able to spend enough quality time together to keep their bond strong and secure. Perhaps utilizing some of the tips in my article, Money Saving Tips for Long Distance Lovers, such as using Skype for online video phone calls, or even creating audio/video love letters to each other could’ve given them a way to stay close emotionally while they were physically apart.
- The Little Things- When you are in a relationship that goes beyond the first year, you may need to remind yourself that your partner is still in need of surprisingly sentimental acts. Buy flowers with a note, “Looking forward to our date tonight,” or show up at their job with a romantic lunch. You could also slip a sultry, but not too risqué, photo into his briefcase of you wearing only the bare necessities and have a note on the back saying, “Tonight I am Yours!” This will definitely get him home early from work!
- Working Together/Stay Involved- One of the most common problems cited in a break-up is a lack of communication. While we are all familiar with speaking, listening is not so simple. You say, “I’m going to make the vacation plans and it’s going to be fabulous!”, but you run into a snag. What should you do? Bring your partner into your world! “I’m sorry, honey, but this is a bigger challenge than I expected, can we work on these plans together?” This may sound like a very simple thing to do, but if you poll former couples, they will cite a lack of requesting assistance from their partner with their joint getaway weekend plans was their biggest downside and most likely led to their break- up.
Always remember that no matter how well your relationship seems to be now, without work and attention to the details, all couples are at risk for failure. You must both remain active within your partnership and you must communicate your needs and desires to each other. A small step toward togetherness could make a huge impact on your relationship.
Hope for Cheating Hearts
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Hot male celebs having extra marital affairs seems to be Hollywood’s newest trend. You can find the stories just about everywhere: Tiger Woods sleeping with multiple women, Jesse James’ affair with a controversial ‘model’, Tiki Barber, who has reportedly left his 8 month pregnant wife for an intern, and even John Edwards, who admits to not only cheating on his cancer stricken wife, but also fathering a child with a willing participant. But, cheating doesn’t discriminate; both men and women can be victims.
If you’ve ever considered an affair, it’s best if you first weigh the downsides to the initial thrill and excitement you may be feeling. This behavior may signify an underlying insecurity that you haven’t dealt with yet like depression, fear of invalidation or commitment issues. Below are some possible causes and solutions for cheating:
- Marriage- You married someone who you weren’t 100% in love with, thinking that eventually your feelings would blossom and grow. Before you find your sexual urges wandering outside the marriage to quench your lusting thirst for someone else, look to your spouse for excitement and try to determine the source of your emotional issues first.
- Communication- Once you realize the reasons your thoughts or actions led you to look toward that sexy intern at the office or the handsome, hot bodied landscaper, have a conversation with your husband or wife. Sometimes just talking about your needs in the relationship can quickly fix the things that are going wrong.
- Counseling- Some unions require additional support to work through the problems. Your insurance company may provide coverage to assist with the cost, but if not, there are community organizations and centers, or perhaps churches and synagogues, that have programs for couples. Getting help could strengthen your bond and save your marriage.
- Separation- If you’ve explored all of your options and still can’t find common ground, it could be that the marriage really wasn’t meant to be. Before choosing to cheat, discuss the option of separation. Time apart will give you the opportunity to examine your inner self and discover why you got married to your spouse in the first place. If separating doesn’t work, it’s better to part ways than to risk hurting your spouse with a fling.
No matter what path you choose, extra marital affairs can only lead to pain and heartache. You married for a reason, so before stepping out, take a moment to step back in and look at your lives from a different perspective. Be open with your spouse about your feelings and if you still see no future, end the relationship before moving on.
Please share your relationship story. Sometimes just writing it down can lead to a positive solution.
Working Together…Playing Together
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Among the younger generation of celebrities in the news are Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart, coupled on screen in the Twilight series’ as well as in real life. It seems that many celebrities meet at work but how do you make this this type of union successful? Whether together on the silver screen or next door office mates at an accounting firm, there’s no magic formula to making love last. However, there are a few ways to maintain a healthy balance:
- Distance – If possible, separate yourself from your partner during work hours to avoid any conflicts, problems or disgruntled employees. Many people look down upon or feel uncomfortable with work relationships so keeping your private affairs for after hours is advised.
- Communication-Never bring arguments or personal matters into work with you. If you must talk with your partner do so during a break or at lunch. Remember that intimate exchange over the company’s email system can be used against you so any conversations should be done using your own personal equipment or in person. The same rules apply when dating someone in the office as they do when two people are at separate jobs.
- Conversation Topics – When two people are dating, there’s a natural tendency to discuss work outside of the office. If you’re employed at the same company, these conversations should be kept to a minimum. It can create job overload and make the focus of your relationship one-sided. Make a pact to limit shop talk to five minutes and don’t participate in office gossip.
With people spending more time at work than ever before, it’s inevitable that love relationships may develop. This type of union can be successful if boundaries are established from 9-5pm.
Are you dating someone in the workplace? Please feel free to share your story and advice.
More on Robert and Kristen here: http://www.ivillage.com/kristen-stewart-robert-pattinson/1-a-120573
Is Your Mate Too Immature?
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Will Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian make it? With Kim being the sophisticated business woman/celebrity and Reggie being a Pro Footballer with a Super Bowl ring you would think they were a lock- but it seems that Reggie is still just a big kid at heart according to a recent PopEater post. They recently went on a Costa Rica vacation to ‘decide’ whether to work at their love life or end it altogether. They’ve chosen the break up, at least for now.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who is more immature than you? For instance, you’re a successful business person who is used to being in charge while your significant other prefers to simply take it easy, hang with friends, and not care about responsibilities or bills with the same passion as you do. Does this sound harmonious or do you wish that they would take some initiative? If you’re with someone who needs a push, here are some great tips to get you on your way to a better bond:
- Dating: Even though you’ve committed to a serious relationship it’s important to physically plan time each week to spend together. Make sure that you both take turns on date night ideas so that each of you gets the most out of your time together.
- Communication: Plan a time where you can spend at least an hour or two together writing up a list of what you want to talk about. Then, one by one, talk…and listen! You may discover that your mate’s lack of maturity has more to do with complacency or even boredom. Make sure that you both are part of the decision making process.
- Compromise: If both of you have agreed to commit to a relationship overhaul, then you must be willing to bend a little on personal choices like where his favorite chair gets to sit and how much more of that closet you actually need.
A relationship works both ways. You give and you get. If you’re doing all the giving and getting nothing in return, it may be time to re-evaluate your current status. If there’s room to grow, start with communicating your issues and listening to theirs. If Kim and Reggie take this type of approach, they might be surprised at how much better their relationship could be. Good Luck!
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