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NEW YORK CITY EVENT:  The Annual Book Expo America will be at the Jacob K. Javits Center Tuesday, May 25 through Thursday May 27, 2010.

You can expect Barbra Streisand to headline along with over 500 authors and 1500 exhibiters. For those interested in learning all there is to know about writing, books, or simply to share your reading passions, this is an event to consider.  For more on this years’ expo, please visit: BookExpoAmerica. If you’re ready to register, click here: REGISTRATION

Are you ready for a new concept in dating?  It’s a twist on an old tradition, called “Rate a Guy” and it’s on WomanSavers.com, which has been the leader in helping women screen dates since 2002.  The site founder and CEO, Stephany Alexander, knew years ago that there was potential for an online site that women could comfortably access to find out more information about a potential suitor.

The concept is brilliant.  All you do is type in the name of a man and if other women have dated him and rated him you can obtain information about him.  Womansavers.com claims to be the largest rating dating site available with nearly 25,000 men on it so far.  Now there’s no reason that other women need to go through the experience of finding out the man their dating is married, cheating or lying.  Log on, put in a man’s information and help others out by giving them the 411.  I have to say, I wish I knew about this when I was single.

Kim Kardashian commented on the WomanSavers.com concept by saying, “I’ve got a guy I can put in there.” referring to weeding out the ‘bad apples.’

The great news is that the site supports women’s organizations throughout the world and a percentage of its proceeds are donated to abused women and children’s charities.

Bad Bedroom habits that will Kill a Relationship featured on Divine Caroline 5-4-10

Have you ever hopped into bed only to find, ugh, crumbs?  More couples than you may think are very particular about their under the sheets rules.  For some, it’s an instant dealbreaker.

My article, Bad Bedroom Habits that will Kill a Relationship, focuses on specific turn-offs that could make your lover go from lustful to lack of interest in no time.  Check out the article and see if you suffer from any of these no-no’s.  The article was recently featured on Divine Caroline.

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Last week, in YourTango tease, my article on 5 Dating Mistakes Single Dads Make was listed in their daily picks.  The article discusses common online dating profile mistakes that single dads may make such as using an old photo or talking about their ex.  It also reminds these wonderful men to get a second opinion before posting their information. With Father’s Day coming up, this could be a helpful article for those who may need some love advice.

Today is my “2nd” Mother’s Day and for millions of moms out there, it’s a day of planned activities and appreciation by husbands and children everywhere.  However, in this modern era of  divorced, widowed, estranged, and simply single moms increasing exponentially since the 1950′s (From 1 in 20 to nearly 1 in 3, according to recent records), many mothers spend this day alone.

But, what if the unattached mom finds a new beau and is ready to include them on their special day?  Is this ‘allowed?’  Hmmm.  The answer is not as easy as the question.  There are many factors that go into this.  If you’re a mom and you want to start dating or include your new man this holiday, check out my article: A New Man for Mother’s Day? Give Yourself the Gift of Love Minus the Guilt.

I would like to thank Single Edition for featuring it this weekend.

Happy Mother’s Day!

If you are wondering where all the good guys are, apparently you can find them on Twitter, where they hold a 56% majority amongst users. And believe it or not, they seem to be becoming better communicators than women, at least in the social media world where, according to a recent survey conducted by Liberty Mutual, they are more likely to tweet on a regular basis than women.

Though 37 year old Alyssa has yet to find Mr. Right, she has created her own intimate dating pool by casting a broad net of followers, people who care about her commentary and brain blurps. “There really are single men out there” says Alyssa as she demystifies the myths for 35+ single women. “These smart and savvy guys are approaching me from every corner of the world.”

As we continue to witness with Facebook and iPhone, the success of one media platform breeds adjunct applications, and Twitter discovered it is no exception.  Already Philip Kaplan, founder of FuckedCompany and Adbrite, lauched Flirt 140, a free service which allows users to find potential matches on Twitter based on gender, geographic area and keyword. Though all boast the same benefits and functionality, there are plenty of microdating communities out there including Plenty of Tweeps, TwitDates and Radaroo. Given that the technology is fairly easy to implement, we predict that larger dating sites like Match.com will be next to launch dating tweet decks of their own.

And though art often imitates life, in the case of social media the real world often mimics the medium. Justin Parfitt, founder and CEO of Fastlife.com, a Canadian-based dating service provider, launched “Flitter” singles events in Australia and is now introducing them to social media singles throughout North America.

Guests at the 140 conference who attended the tweet and greet session simply wore a white sticker with a number given to them upon entry and were able to send direct messages to any number of strangers who caught their eye and fancy from across the room, all via their mobile devices.

And like Alyssa you don’t have to be a tech geek to join in the fun. Just beware who you talk to and what you tweet about, because these days it seems everybody it watching!

Alright, you may or may not be willing to admit this, but you loved the first Sex and the City movie, and are now eagerly anticipating the sequel which is set to be released on May 27, 2010.  To view an enticingly teasing trailer: http://www.sexandthecitymovie.com/.  It follows your four favorite NYC Singles – Carrie, Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte make a getaway to Abu Dhabi where camels, cocktails and an old crushes collide.

Does your single life emulate any of the characters in the series/movie?  Each of the characters has their own style and flair, but they share one thing in common.  They’re single and lonely.  It’s tempting to try to fit yourself in their shoes, if you can afford them.  Remember that Hollywood is paid to make it look good.  If you are part of a growing population that would rather take dating advice from movies, consider, that in doing so, you are preventing yourself from meeting your soul-mate because you chose to glam up and head to the opening of a hot new nightclub instead of your best friend’s barbecue. If you’re not sure how to get started on your real life romance, here are some suggestions:

• Travel to your Hometown: Instead of flying to jet set locations in hopes of meeting a shallow fling, head home to where the heart is.  Low key vacations gives you a chance to meet new people in your native city and are more likely to spark long term, meaningful romance
• Nerds are a girl’s best friend: Not all men are created equal. Braniacs offer more stability in a relationship versus multiple one night stands w hot guys, so set your bar higher and search for the intellectuals in your crowd.
• Take a Class:  Believe it or not, simply taking a class on your latest passion offers you a wider dating selection than even online dating.  Here, you put yourself into a scene where you are surrounded by people that share your interest.  Striking up a conversation could lead to coffee, lunch, or a full blown relationship. For more information on connecting in class, read my article, How to Connect in Continuing Education.

Life can often be troubling and full of unimaginable challenges, but you can work through them, one step at a time.  Consider your options within your own life before taking tips from the movies alone for they are usually filled with embellishing traits to make it a better movie.

If you’re in need of tips on dating, relationships, or love in general, please check out the articles on my website: loribizz.com

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Reese Witherspoon, known for movies such as: Walk the Line and Legally Blonde (1 and 2) enjoys a weekend getaway in Ojai, CA, with her new boyfriend Jim Toth by her side. He’s a young, hot, Hollywood agent working for ‘Creative Artists Agency’ (which also happens to be the same agency that represents Witherspoon). They were spotted on breakfast and lunch dates holding hands and looking very happy together.  It seems that after months of going ga-ga for Jake Gyllenhaal, Witherspoon is trying her luck with a younger man who’s ’not’ in the spotlight.  She was previously married to fellow actor, Ryan Philippe, until November 2006, and they have two children together.

If you find yourself craving variety after ending a long-term relationship of any kind and want to try something new, like Witherspoon, there are a few things you should keep in mind:

• Gossip – No matter how you end things with your previous partner, there’s bound to be some gossip from friends, family, and/or colleagues about your former relationship.  In order to move forward, you’ll need to keep the wagging tongues silent – including yours.  Bad mouthing your ex opens you up to falling victim to insecurity and may prevent new connections from forming, or even ruin the one you’ve just begun.
• Timing – One thing you may hear over and over, is that people are getting back into the dating game only days after breaking up with their old partner. When you end a relationship, no matter what the reason, it’s always best to take extra time to reacquaint yourself with the single ‘you.’ Give yourself at least two months to start thinking of adding a new love interest into your mix.
• Privacy – Though you may have been accustomed to revealing personal details in your last relationship, don’t over share on the first few dates. There is always a need or desire to simply ‘be’ with each other, but remember to maintain other aspects of your life when starting a new romance. You can reveal yourself slowly as you grow more comfortable with each other.

Forming a new love alliance can be tough, but if you shake off your old dating habits and routines, the next relationship could be the one.

For more information on love and dating after any serious relationship, my article First Encounters, Second Time Around Fears, maybe just what you’re looking for to find your next love interest.

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Jennifer may have split with co star, Jamie Kennedy, but this ‘unlucky in love’ star of Ghost Whisperer, who proclaims herself a ‘Hopeless Romantic,’ is sharing her real life love story in her new book, ‘The Day I Shot Cupid: Hello, My name is Jennifer Love Hewitt and I’m a Love-aholic,’ which can be purchased at Amazon.  Hewitt shares what she’s learned about being honest with yourself and she uses a witty approach to discuss 20 things you should do after a break up.  Here are just a few:

• Know that you won’t die (you have to stick around so he can see what a mistake he made.
• Take it one day at a time (we all have to take it one day at a time, that’s how it works.)
• Don’t go to the old “we” spots.
• Do something extreme (that you normally wouldn’t do).

If you aren’t content living your life as a party of one, then consider reading Hewitt’s book, to help you change your status back to ‘in a relationship.’  For any real chance at success, take your time and work on yourself  before proclaiming to the world that ‘You’re Ready for Love.’  Remember that it takes time to heal.  For more about Jennifer Love Hewitt, login to her website at: www.jenniferlovehewittonline.com .